No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion or tough love. There’s only one thing that makes someone change: their own realizaton, that they need to do it. And there’s only one time it will happen, when they decide they’re ready.
I believe that you have made the first step for yourself by turning up to our first meeting.
Coaching is about you, so is our introductory meeting. This is where we have the chance to connect and establish trust, which is an essential condition of our efficient work together.
The first session fills me with curiosity and excitement, and I trust this is how you will feel, too. We will talk about your challlenges, motivations, possible worries and about drives you. We map out your current situation and sometimes we may even already catch a glimpse of the direction you are aiming for.
Most of the clients do not arrive with a specific problem. With the help of my support, you will soon be able to determine what it is that you would like to work on and you will be able to set a goal. I will support you through this process.
We will agree on the structure of our sessions and the rules. Also we will cover your expectations and I will then explain how the coaching will take place. In general, 6-10 occasions are sufficient to reach the desired goal, but this depends a lot on the topic and the complexity of the challenge. In case of a specific problem, often 2-4 sessions can bring the result.
It is important to remember: coaching is not about me providing you with a ready solution or me telling you what is the right thing for you to do. You will be able to find your own way and solution by having my full support, experience and expertise.
Looking forward to seeing you,
Unconditional positive regard
According to Rogers, unconditional positive regard involves showing complete support and acceptance of a person no matter what that person says or does. The therapist accepts and supports the client, placing no conditions on this acceptance. That means the therapist supports the client, whether they are expressing ’good’ behaviors and emotions or “bad” ones.
It means caring for the client, but not in a possessive way or in such a way as simply to satisfy the therapist’s own needs.
Caring for the client as a separate person, with permission to have his own feelings, his own experiences.